7 July 2023

A Women's Circle for the Pregnant Mama: Ceremony, Ritual and Deep Support

How to Host a Mama-to-Be Circle

A loving alternative to a traditional baby shower.


What is a Mama-to-Be Circle?


A Mama-to-Be circle is a gathering of women to nurture, honour, and support a pregnant mama as she prepares to journey into motherhood. Unlike a traditional baby shower, the focus is on the inner transformation - emotionally, spiritually, and energetically.


This kind of circle is a place for:


  • Witnessing and celebrating the mama's journey
  • Offering emotional nourishment and loving presence
  • Creating ritual and ceremony to anchor her in trust



It Takes a Village


They say it takes a village to raise a child - but it also takes a village to make a mother. When we gather in circle, we're letting the mama-to-be know: you are not alone.


Even though birth is ultimately a solo initiation, it doesn't have to feel isolating. A circle can be the beginning of a postpartum support village - one that uplifts, holds, and checks in.



Creating a Sacred, Empowering Experience


The goal of a mama circle is to be empowering, not overwhelming. Here's what to keep in mind:


  • Be mindful with storytelling (avoid fear based birth stories)
  • Focus on encouragement, love, and the strength you see in her
  • Share positive experiences, wisdom, and the deeper truths of motherhood


A powerful ritual is to have each guest share a memory or quality they love about the mama. It helps her feel seen, cherished, and grounded in her own inner strength.



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Circles and the Cycles of Life


Pregnancy is a threshold - a sacred moment in the ever-turning cycle of life. As we honour the mama, we also honour:


  • The rhythm of life and death
  • The seasons we've lived through
  • The new beginnings ahead


These gatherings are also a chance for everyone to reflect on where they are in their own cycle.



What Happens in a Mama-to-Be Circle?


Here's a suggested flow for your ceremony:



1. Welcome and Intention Setting


Begin by welcoming everyone and stating your purpose:


"We are here today to support [Mama's name] as she transitions from maiden to mother. Your presence today shows that she is not alone - she is supported by her village."



2. Grounding Meditation


Invite everyone to place on hand on their heart and one of their womb (or belly). Guide a short grounding meditation to bring everyone into the space and intention. Focus on grounding into Papatūānuku, the Earth Mother, as she holds us. Use the analogy of roots grounding into the earth and growing into a tree.



3. Introductions


Invite each guest to share:


  • "My name is _____________, daughter of _____________, mother to ___________"
  • "I met [Mama's Name] through ___________" or "I love [Mama's Name] because ________"


This ritual honours the matriarchal line and connects the circle to a deeper feminine thread.


4. Thread Ceremony


Using a ball of thread:


  • Each woman wraps the thread around her wrist while offering a prayer of intention (aloud or silently)
  • The ball of yarn is passed around the circle and ends with the mama
  • Everyone keeps the thread on their wrist until the thread is cut, symbolising shared support and spiritual connection


5. Candle Ritual


Each guest brings a candle from home. The mama lights a central "mother candle" and uses it to light each guest's candle. Allow the mama to see the light that shines for her.


Guests can re-light their candles at home when the mama goes into labour or the baby arrives - a symbolic act of love and prayer.


6. Optional Additions


Include any ceremonies that feel right for your group:


  • Share empowering birth stories
  • Write love letters or birth affirmations
  • Create a birth altar or visual artwork for the birth space
  • Pass around a blessing bowl or beads


Final Reminder


The most important part of hosting the circle is the heart behind it.


Make space for vulnerability, joy, tears, laughter, and celebration. Be clear in your intention to hold the mama with love, support, and reverence.


You can also include more light-hearted fun games with a shared meal after the circle. This is a beautiful opportunity to include other family members and friends.


Need Help Planning?


If you feel called to host your own mama-to-be circle and want guidance, Olivia would love to support you. Reach out for ideas and suggestions to create a beautiful and empowering experience.

Postpartum Support


A village that gathers together can keep showing up after birth.


A mama-to-be circle isn't just a one-time gathering - it's the beginning of a postpartum village. The women who've gathered in support of the mama  are in a unique position to carry that love forward, into the days, weeks, and months after birth.


It's important to remember that everyone in the circle is in a different season of their life. Some may be parenting young children themselves or navigating busy work lives, while others may have more spaciousness and time. No one contribution is too small - and every act of care matters.


Ways to Support the Postpartum Period:


  • Organise a meal roster so the mama has nourishing meals dropped off in those early weeks (using tools like MealTrain or a shared calendar)
  • Cook in advance and stock her freezer with warming, nutrient-rich meals or snacks (broths, soups, sauces, or bliss balls can be great)
  • Gift a meal delivery subscription for postpartum care
  • Offer practical help - such as folding laundry, tidying up, or taking the baby for a short walk while she rests or has a shower
  • Go to the supermarket for her and drop off necessities such as toilet paper or nappies
  • Send a text to check in - and expect nothing in return. Let her know she's not forgotten or alone
  • Be mindful not to expect long visits or long replies - let your support be unconditional and spacious


By planting seeds of postpartum support during the mama-to-be circle, we affirm that her needs matter, too. This is what it means to be part of her village - to carry the circle forward into everyday life.




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